Thursday, February 4, 2010
Anything for Love
As the first generation of only children, they are realizing now that they have to study hard to get into university to get a good job so that they can afford an apartment, get married and support their parents in old age.
But financial burdens aside, they can also be the most shallow people on earth.
There's a Reuters story today coming out of Shanghai where a 21-year-old woman wants to have extensive plastic surgery so that she can look like American actress Jessica Alba in order to win back her boyfriend.
The young woman, who gave her name as Xiaoqing, said she was devastated after her boyfriend, who is a fan of Fantastic Four and Into the Blue, broke up with her.
Xiaoqing said that during their 18-month relationship, her 28-year-old boyfriend was obsessed with Alba, putting up pictures of the actress everywhere in their apartment and talking about her constantly.
While he didn't say outright that he wanted Xiaoqing to look like Alba, he had hinted he wanted her to look like Alba and even bought her a blonde wig to wear.
This was too much for Xiaoqing who broke up with him a month ago, but now she wants him back.
"When I broke up with my boyfriend, I was very sad," she told Reuters. "My friends... kept consoling me but it didn't work, so they suggested I do plastic surgery to look like her (Alba)."
The Shanghai Time Plastic Surgery Hospital has agreed to perform the operation, but hospital director Jiang Shan has talked to Xiaoqiing and asked her to think more clearly about what she is doing.
"If she wants to look much better than she does now, for example if she wants her skin to look smoother and her overall facial facade to look more beautiful, I think we are able to help her fulfill her wishes," Jiang said.
"But if she wants to totally look like Jessica Alba, I would think she is still not confident of herself and that she needs to solve this problem psychologically."
"I have never been able to let him go," Xiaoqing said. "If in the end he still does not accept me after I undergo the plastic surgeries, I will give up. I will then choose to let go, start afresh and live life by myself," she added.
So if she spends all this money and time and not to mention physical pain in going through these operations and her boyfriend does not want her back, does she realize that she's going to look like the Chinese version of Jessica Alba for the rest of her life? That she can't undo what she's done?
To radically and physically change oneself just for acceptance from someone why may not even love you is absolutely ridiculous. It reveals how insecure and pathetic desperate people can be.
But it also shows how sad her boyfriend is in his obsession over a Hollywood starlet and even goading Xiaoqing into looking more like Alba.
This story reveals the low self-esteem young people have; many in China do not have much experience when it comes to relationships and so they think it is literally the end of the world when they are rejected by someone they think they are in love with.
That's because their parents have tried to shelter them as much as they can from life's hardships, but instead that has made any surmountable challenges or obstacles impossible.
Xiaoqing has said that she will consult with her mother on whether she should go ahead with the plastic surgery when she goes back to her hometown in Hubei Province for Spring Festival. Hopefully her mom will be able to persuade her out of this pitiful move.
One also wonders if Alba thinks this kind of imitation is flattery... or not.